Tuesday, February 28, 2006

The Roller Coaster

So, on with the rest of my weekend.

Saturday - started out boring, just paying bills, updating and balancing our bank accounts. Then met a friend for lunch. I met her online, she was going to be moving to the area and was looking to meet some friends here. We've talked since October and finally met this weekend. We had a great time getting to know each other, talking about her new job and some of the things she has discovered so far. Afterwards I went home and my girl was awake. (She works overnight right now). Hung out with her for awhile then I got back online while she took a shower and got ready to go to her friend's house. Anyway, I logged onto a site I frequent and had a message from a girl who was like my sister growing up. Her father and my mother lived together for 5 years. It was so cool that she found me on there. So I sent her a message with my phone number and waited for her to call. Which she did, after she got off work, we were partying at a friend's. But I went outside and talked to her for a long time, just trying to catch up. It was so cool! We have plans to meet up Tuesday.

Sunday - Whoa! More fighting with my GF, big time! I don't know what is wrong with us lately. Or maybe it's just me. Part of the problem is we quit smoking AGAIN Sunday.

Monday - Fought with my sister. Hmmm... I seem to be the common denominator. I'm just fed up with her right now. She still owes money for January's rent much less February and still owes me a lot of money on my credit card for bailing her out of jail last October. She hardly works, hangs out with friends constantly, barely makes it home in the morning to take the kids to school. She agreed to take her daughter and my oldest to school when we moved so they wouldn't have to switch schools. I leave at 6:20 yesterday, no sister. She did make it home in time but I asked her "Could you not just be home before I leave so I don't have to worry about it or start making other plans?" She had to nerve to say "Can I just live my life?" Well excuse me but it seems she is living her life... She works when she wants to, she hangs out with her friends when she wants to, she take no responsibility for her daughter (no signing school work, no helping with homework, no making sure her room is clean, no making sure she bathes or brushes her teeth, or even eats for that matter), she comes and goes as she pleases, and doesn't even pay any bills. My GF and I can not afford to support her and my niece on top of all our bills and taking care of 3 kids and picking up the slack for what disability doesn't pay for with my mom. So... in the end... I evicted her. I know she doesn't really have anywhere else to go but chances are she's get her ass to work to make enough to get her a room in a motel. Or she'll realize how good she does have it, apologize, and swear to make it up to me. Or she'll just refuse to leave. I gave her until the end of the week. So we will see.

So, we watched The L Word last night. Carmen was cracking me up. I could so relate to her, although I didn't go that far. Angus and Kit are so cute. I feel so bad for Bette and Tina, I wonder what is going to happen with them. I thought it was ironic thought that she was telling Tina that she was breaking up their home, I seem to remember her starting that by having an affair in the first place. I don't know, they are doing a great job of making my heart feel for both of them. I'm so ready for Jenny to have a good relationship. I wonder if she would be offering to pay for this surgery if she knew what Max was doing at the restaurant. Alice is doing an amazing job being there for Dana. I wonder though if Laura will come back...
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Monday, February 27, 2006

Another first! A Day at the Spa

I love this blog The Big Question. It's fun to go in each day and see what new question will be up.

Well this weekend was a roller coaster. Up and down, up and down.

Friday - I got work at 1:00 and stopped and pick up some lunch. Then went to Daired's for my appointment at the spa. I have never been but my girlfriend bought me a package for Valentine's Day. I have wanted to go and get a full on massage for so long, but never bought it for myself. So, I was so excited. The package I got was called Chocolate Decadence. So I show up and as soon as I walked into this place I was already starting to relax, a little. There was a wall of water splashing into a pool. Let me just say that I expected to feel anxious, being my first time, not knowing exactly what to expect. I also expected it to be a relaxing place, I just was a little suprised at my ability to be relaxed in this situation. Does that even make sense?

So, to start off, I'm taken to a dressing room, given a robe and sandals, a locker, and a place to change in. I'm so nervous, trying to decide... leave the panies on or take them off. In the end I decided to be grown up about it and that I could handle being naked. Also, I didn't want to end up wishing I had removed them especially during some of the treatments. I mean they are professionals, this is what they do. Anyway, once I was robed I waited in this little lobby. It was so dim in there, but I was nervous. Next thing I know my name is being called.

Off to the massage I go. I was to recieve a Chocolate Rasberry Pangea Massage. The room was small, but I noticed all the things done to make it as relaxing as possible. Simple but beautiful decor. The ceiling was all bamboo. The music was great, again dim lights. So, she told me to lie face down under the sheet and left the room. So I removed my robe, hung it on the back of the door, slid out of my sandals and layed my naked self down on the table and made sure all pertinent areas were covered. Ok... little nervous now. She came back in and told me that she was going to get started and asked if there were any areas I would like her to concentrate on. I told her my neck/shoulder area and my lower back often hurt. Let me say that it did not take me long AT ALL to get relaxed. She did an amazing job working all the kinks out. She massaged my back, shoulders, and neck for a long time. Then the back of my arms, then moved on to the back of my legs and my feet. After a little while she told me to roll over. She sat the table up a little bit to make it more comfortable, placed a hot towel roll under my neck and a washcloth over my eyes. Then she massaged my arms, down to my hands. My legs and feet. Then my shoulders, my neck, my face, and my head. It was wonderful. After she was done she stepped out of the room. I put my robe and slippers back on and she was waiting for me outside with a glass of ice water. I was escorted to the spa lounge to wait for the next round.

Next was the scrub, a Chocolate Cake Scrub. I walked into a room called a Vicci Shower (I think that was how it was spelled). I was left to lie on a table with a disposable undies (for more coverage), and 2 hand towels, each one folder to cover a minimal area. One to cover my chest and the other to cover my groin. By now though I was way past being nervous. I was totally enjoying the experience and everyone there was doing everything possible to make me comfortable and relaxed, without it feeling weird. So anyway, on to the scrub. It was so cool. There was this metal arm that extended over the table with about 6 shower heads on it. So once the water was warm to my tastes, the arm was slowly moved across my body until I was drenched. Then she applied the scrub, which smelled absolutely amazing! I was scrubbed down, rinsed, turn on my stomach. I was drenched and scrubbed again. It was great, I loved it. When that was done, I was led back to the spa lounge with a fresh glass of water to relax before the last leg of my journey.

Last was the wrap, a Chocolate Mint Wrap. I was "painted" with a chocolate mint mud. I say painted because they used a paint brush to apply the mud, weird, but it did a great job of getting it evenly spread. Then I was wrapped in plastic, then a sheet, then a heated mat, like I was in a cocoon. I'm not really claustraphobic, but this was pushing it just a little for me. After she wrapped me she massaged my head for about15 minutes, that was great and really helped me relax. It wasn't until the end that I started feeling the effects of being restricted. A little itch here, a little tickle there. Then I started to sweat and that made me uncomfortable. Luckily for me that was the end. When she unwrapped me I went from hot to very cold, quickly. The mud had an element to it, maybe the mint, it kind of reminded me of mint gum, you know the kind that makes your mouth cool when you breathe on it. So the fact that I was sweaty and had this Icy Hot thing going on. Anyway... I was wrapped in a towel and headed down to the sweddish shower. The shower was pretty cool. The cold water was not. She forgot to turn the hot water on and it was a weird little system that I could not figure out on my own. So I had to stick my head out of the room and wait for someone to come by and help me. Once I got the temperature right, it was great. The three walls of the shower each had four shower heads to hit down the body and then one huge shower head about 12 inches in diameter overhead. It was great. Then headed back to the room for lotion to be applied. Another glass of water and the spa lounge until I was ready to get dressed.

Three hours later I emerged feeling 100% relaxed. It was absolutely amazing. I have never felt that decadent or pampered and loved every single minute of it. There are some things that just make me feel definitely like a grown up and this was one of them. Big thanks to my girlfriend, for the wonderful and thoughtful gift.

It's such a shame that I ended up going home and fighting with her.
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Thursday, February 23, 2006

My favorite quote

"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things only hoped for.

(I don't know who the author is, sorry)
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A first time for everything

:) Ok, so one thing I never thought about, I recieved my first letter from an inmate. My sister's fiance, P, is in jail and has recieved pictures from my sister. A couple are from a night when my sister and I went out. So, this guy saw a picture of me and has heard somethings about me from P and decided to write me. Of course P told him I'm in a relationship and live with my girlfriend, but he doesn't seem to care, or perhaps he thinks it doesn't matter. Anyway, I thought it was kind of funny. My girlfriend on the other hand, just wants to know that I'm not going to start corresponding with him. I won't, because I don't want to disrespect her or make her feel uncomfortable. She is far more important to me.

I'm ready for the weekend! Bring it on!
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Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Child lost in life, Mom lost in mind

It's hump day!!! I didn't sleep well last night. Had a hard time falling asleep and then a hard time staying asleep. All of which is totally out of the norm for me. I usually fall asleep within minutes of my head hitting the pillow and I'm a very deep sleeper. So I'm not sure what's up.

My ex and I share custody of our children. They stay a week at a time in each of our homes, allowing them and us to spend equal time. This week they are at their dads. My oldest called last night because she wasn't feeling well. My poor baby, she just wanted her mom. I think it's easy for me to sometimes forget how hard her life is right now. I saw this online and it made things kind of hit home for me. (The ones in italics are the ones my daughter had experienced)

How many of the events below has your pre-teen experienced in the last 12 months:

Divorce or separation of parents
New step family members introduced into the home (well kind of)
Poor performance at school
Loss of a pet
Change in daycare/babysitter/caretaker
Moved to a different town
Entered into a new school system
New baby in the home
Loss of a family member or friend
Rejection from a team or club

So, my mom is losing her damn memory again. Side note: Our living arangements are a little unique. We have a household of 8. Me, my girlfriend, my 12 year old daughter, my 5 year old son, my 3 year old daughter, my sister, her 9 year old daughter, and my mother. So anyway, I come home and say hello to my mother. She is on the computer, playing a game, and asks if I need to use the computer. I tell her no and head to my bedroom. About ten minutes later I'm sitting on my bed watching TV and my mom comes in, sees me, and says "Oh, I didn't know you were home honey". I look at her and what to say "Are you crazy woman?". But of course that's a sensitive subject.
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Tuesday, February 21, 2006

My very first blog, ever

Ok, so here goes.

Today is just like every other day I guess. Every day is different, yet somehow the same.

I found out this past weekend that my 12 year old daughter had tried smoking. I was really shocked. Not because I have any delusions that she is perfect and will never get into any trouble (she causes enough of it). It's just that... she HATES it. Or so I thought. She complains about not being able to breathe any time she is around it, yet the curiousity sucked her in anyway. I honestly didn't know what to do; punish her, ground her, forbid her from being out of sight, pat her down before every venture outside of the house, remove all aids for covering up smokey breathe, do a breathe check at random intervals, give her a pack and tell her to smoke it all one after another. Hell I don't know, it's not like I have a role model in my own mother. When she found out I was smoking she told me I might as well not hide it from her, but join her instead. Not exactly what I'm looking for, for my own daughter. I'm sure as hell not giving her my permission. So in the end I just ended up having a long discussion with her and limiting the amount of time she spends with her friends. Any other suggestions?

The L Word Discussion - (could contain spoilers)
In other news. My best friend, Friend Since High School, came over to watch The L Word. Since she has to be at work so early I DVR it on Sundays and she comes over on Mondays to watch it with us. It was a great episode. We all cried in almost every scene with Dana in it. I felt so bad for Carmen. I have so been in that position, saying something before I realize the impact it will have. Alice just cracks me the fuck up! I love her. When will Jenny ever have a healthy relationship? I don't pretend to know what Moira/Max is going thru right now, I just want Jenny to get a shot at a good relationship. Anyway, I can't wait until next week. I don't know what I'll do when this season ends. :( Cry maybe...
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